Hello and Welcome to my blog. I am glad that you are here.

I am a mom who has experienced Postpartum Depression/Postpartum Mood Disorder (PMD). I am now a Postpartum Depression Awareness & Support Activist.

I entitled my blog "It Takes A Village" in reference to the African proverb that is so commonly known. I feel very strongly that we as a society have set very high standards and expectations of new mothers to take care of their children on their own, without support or help after the first week or so.

I think we have it backwards: New Mom's need respite and support whether they are well or not. We need support and encouragement, and someone to relieve us so that we can get some sleep and time to rejuvienate.

My aim with this blog is to bring awareness to the world, and support to other Moms (and possibly Dads) that are going through this experience. I am passionate about reducing stigma as it creates the barrier that keeps women silent and suffering. I want Moms to feel safe enough to share their story and get the support and help they need to get better.

I encourage you, if you believe you may be experiencing more than the "baby blues" to seek out help. You will not be judged or criticized. The goal of all list here on this blog are to support you and help you heal so that you may live the life you dreamed of with your child.

This blog is a work in progress, please check in often to see more updates and new information!

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

My Strength is Your Illusion

One of the very troubling struggles with having postpartum depression or any other "invisible" type of illness is that those who have not experienced it can never really understand it.

For those women who are super achievers, or have been the "caretaker" of the family, it makes it just that much harder for others to see that we just can't do it anymore. We still care-take and wear the mask of superwomen to protect our husbands, children, and other family members from their own pain of watching us in pain. We try to be strong for them, and end up moving backwards in our recovery.

We are embarrassed that we have to remind them about what we are going through. We don't want to voice the struggle we go through daily to just cope with every minute we are awake. They just want everything to be as it was. They get grumpy, angry, stay in denial or withdraw emotionally when we don't heal as fast as they think we should.

What is the solution?
Take Care of Ourselves First- despite the discomfort of everyone else.
Communicate: Let our spouse and family members know the truth of how we are feeling.
Stop Being a Hero. We can't be there for everyone else if we fall into the abyss. 

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