Hello and Welcome to my blog. I am glad that you are here.

I am a mom who has experienced Postpartum Depression/Postpartum Mood Disorder (PMD). I am now a Postpartum Depression Awareness & Support Activist.

I entitled my blog "It Takes A Village" in reference to the African proverb that is so commonly known. I feel very strongly that we as a society have set very high standards and expectations of new mothers to take care of their children on their own, without support or help after the first week or so.

I think we have it backwards: New Mom's need respite and support whether they are well or not. We need support and encouragement, and someone to relieve us so that we can get some sleep and time to rejuvienate.

My aim with this blog is to bring awareness to the world, and support to other Moms (and possibly Dads) that are going through this experience. I am passionate about reducing stigma as it creates the barrier that keeps women silent and suffering. I want Moms to feel safe enough to share their story and get the support and help they need to get better.

I encourage you, if you believe you may be experiencing more than the "baby blues" to seek out help. You will not be judged or criticized. The goal of all list here on this blog are to support you and help you heal so that you may live the life you dreamed of with your child.

This blog is a work in progress, please check in often to see more updates and new information!

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Releasing my Expectations

This has been one of my biggest challenges. My first expectation was the wonderful family life I would have after my son was born and how happy we all would be. Having a baby and then taking care of it isn't a piece of cake, and the insomnia I had in the last two months of my pregnancy did not prepare me for the lack of sleep I would experience as I cared for my baby. Add postpartum depression to the mix and the entire scene goes foul.

Many more expectations followed: my ability to be the projection of  this horrible rumor called "super mom", my "natural" ability to breast feed (but that's another story), my belief that I could conquer postpartum on my own by talking myself out of it using my coaching skills,  and basically my expectations of just being and doing better than I thought I was.

I am learning to be kinder to myself and to release self-judgement. I am my own worst enemy at times and I have realized that every person's journey is different. I have learned that we all have a similar but unique experience with postpartum depression. This means that I don't compare my recovery with another's and torture myself with it.

For me, it means that I do practice acceptance for my situation and at the same time follow the healing path that works for me.

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